It’s ironic how when asked to write about something, only then do we sit and reflect upon the true meaning of the word. My quest for inspiration took me to the internet, on which I stumbled upon an interesting fact worthy of mention. The mentions of the word ‘happiness’ has decreased dramatically from the 1800s to date. This sparked curiosity and the inspiration for this article.
Is our society today struggling to be happy? How far have we fallen down the rabbit hole that we are now less in touch with our happiness? Are we so preoccupied with our lives that we have forgotten the core of a meaningful life is to be happy?
When we make our debut into this world, we arrive without any sense of inhibition. We are in touch with our happiness - that it lies within. However, as time goes by, we often lose touch of that animalistic nature as society conforms us into fitting in with the accepted norm which is to suppress our emotions and express them in moderation. Perhaps somewhere along the way, we lose touch with our happiness, and this results in most of us spending our entire lives seeking that which was lost.
Fortunately for us, companies that pioneer the digital age recognise the need for applications and programmes to aid our society in their pursuit of happiness. It is extremely easy to lose track of that basic sense of humanity and companies have invested in uniquely designed applications for our mobile devices that help us find the calm amidst all the hustle and bustle of our daily lives.Applications such as the gratitude journal, headspace, mindfulness and pay it forward are all apps that have been designed to keep you in touch, in tune and on track with your inner happiness.
However, even despite the various applications as well as the more traditional measures available to us, I believe that we are the true masters of our happiness. Being happy is a decision that we need to come to ourselves. Only then can we take the necessary measures to obtain it. It does not matter if various tools and societies are available that can help us achieve the happiness-state-of-mind, if we do not choose it for ourselves.
My experience in life has led me to the realisation that happiness is a state of well-being that most of us are trying to achieve. Dennis Waitley, an inspiring motivational speaker could not have put it better, happy people plan actions they don’t plan results! I have tried to live my life with that in mind.
“Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared” – Buddha.
Perhaps it is my feminine nature, but being happy for me is much about sharing and making the people around me happy. If in a day, I get to make at least three people happy, I consider my daily target achieved. This does not mean I mimic Oprah and go about my day handing out new cars to people, making someone happy to me could be as simple as making someone feel appreciated and being a leader in an organisation, that certainly means a lot for a healthier, happier working environment! Despite being a strong advocator of sharing your happiness and making others happy, one cannot deny the fact that we should not neglect ourselves.
It amazes me how we can find happiness in the simplest of things. For me, it’s the 5 extra minutes I spend under my sheets, that first sip of freshly brewed coffee in the morning, and that neighbour that is there to greet me as I head out every morning. Many of us today embark on journeys across the globe in search happiness. However, I urge everyone to search within, as true happiness lies within all of us and it is up to us to reconnect with it.